Great ending in the solution paragraph. This is often portrayed that men can't or won't live up to women's standards but this is toxic BS. 1) There are no defined domestic standards or ways of doing things handed down on stone tablets from God. 2) Many men are very competent doing domestic chores and often more competent than their partner and have been doing the chores previous to the relationship for years or even decades. 3) A marriage must be a shared vision not one partner imposing their domestic standards on the other and then complaining the other does not meet the standards. You have to meet your partner half-way or it is not going to work. 4) When one partner is toxic and demands their standards be the relationship standards sometimes the other person will decide to not fight to keep the peace but will withdraw as much as possible. This is both partners' fault.